Saturday, April 7, 2007

He's Holding Them Now...

My preachers daughter and her husband found out they were going to have a baby a while ago.

And then they found two heartbeats...

It was an long, but exciting journey for them both, as you can imagine! Their first baby, then there are two... Oh they were excited.

A few days after her baby shower, she started having problems, and they had to deliver a few months early... And we know that one complication can sometimes lead to another...

One week later, on Thanksgiving day, one of those twins died in the NICU.

That was a funeral I will not soon forget, it was one of those bitterly cold days, but we were outside, at a funeral, for a baby... so of course, it was even worse.

The other one, of course, still had some issues, but he started to pull through... They were all excited, and hopeful. I can remember my preacher was ecstatic. He'd always keep the church up to date and say things like "He isn't out of the woods yet, folks, but God is good, and the baby is a fighter, God can bring him through!"

About three months later, the other twin died.

Another sad, sad funeral. I mean, funerals are always sad... But when it's an older person, I think they can be easier. They got to live a long, happy life... With these babies, it was sad because they never got that chance.

Anyway, I said all that to say this: These people have had it hard. They have every right to quit, and to just give up on God all together.

But they don't.

Of course they have bad days, and of course it's hard for them to look at that empty nursery every day. They were ready to be parents.

But they have been the biggest blessing to me.
After all they have been through, they still encourage me, and pray for me. I do the same for them as well...

It takes a strong person to be that way... I am friends with these people, and it is such a comfort to talk to someone who knows a bit of what I'm talking about. Of course, they can't fathom what exactly I am saying, just as I cannot try to fathom what they are going through, but we have an idea.

Vickie, (the mother) told me this, and it made me think, it made me cry, it made me proud, and it comforted me:

"Mel, I know Jim would have been such a good daddy... I am sure he is holding my little guys right now."

I think she's right. He's probably teaching them "boy stuff"

I know God will take care of Jim, as well as the babies... But I think he'd be okay with Jim helping out, since he knew them and all...

What a thought! My man (Who would have been the best daddy) is holding her guys right now...

10 comments:

Morrisonfamily said...

Dear Mel,

What a thought to hold on to.
My heart is heavy for you sweetie.
So many things you were looking forward to.
I remember reading that you and Jim never fought, what a memory.
You said you two did things right, that is a blessing, no regrets.
I don't want to give you platitudes and say the pat answers. I just want you to know that I care, that I am praying for you and that I have grown to love you.

God bless you.

Mrs. M

Mel's Mom said...

Mel, you and Jim would have been great parents TOGETHER..I am so sorry you didn't have the chance...I'm sure God is letting Jim help =) Vicky has been blessed by you, I'm sure. No regrets..did it right (and you DID!!!).. and yet once again, we MUST count on "Farther Along"- for without it nothing would make sense. We love you and are SO proud of you!

Carrie! :o) said...

What a beautiful thought to hold close to your heart! Bless you!

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Loving Annie said...

Dear Melissa,
That is a lovelyway to look at it... And i believe true... Blessings to all of you --

GreenEyedGirl said...

What a story.....I believe he is with those little babies too.

God Bless You.

Loving Annie said...

Good Friday morning Mel. Thank you for the sweet comment that you left me !
How are you doing today ?

Loving Annie said...

Hey Mel ! How is work going ? How was your Easter ? Are your taxes all done ?

In response to the question you left me on my blog -- Yeah, the cyber community really can be a nice helping hand with the interweaving of common interests/feelings/experiences that we go through together...

It's as though we are cyber-angels for each-other in a sense...

People you probably will never meet in real life, but who extend themselves to you genuinely for a moment or two or ten through their blogs and comments...

I'm okay. Not great, but okay. It's hard for me without Mike...It's been 5 months since my world was shattered, and I still miss him every day, it just isn't as horrifically painful as it was...

My image of him as a good guy is so at war with my friends disdain for him as a jerk who I am better off without...

In moving on with my life, I have to change my expectations of what my entire life will be like, as well as my feelings about myself, and what I believed to be true...

It is not easy, nor is it quick...

I was so devoted to him...
And now there is nothing. Facing that each morning when I wake up still feels so dreadfully hollow...

So, that's part of why I can relate to you and Jim with such empathy...

You lost your Jim through tragedy...
I lost my Mike through him feeling differently than I did.

Either way, there is a loss, a death of hope, of happiness, of security, of safety, of a vision of a life together...

You are young, Mel. 19 where I am 49...

You have much love and happiness in front of you... Not now, now/this year is for being in shock and grieving and recovering...

But your bereaved heart will be touched by someone else eventually who loves and needs you -- and you will love him back.

Never like Jim, but differently...

And there will be children and joy for you with a good man, because you are clearly a good woman...

Hope that you have a good upcoming weekend, Mel, and my thoughts are with you --

Angry White Guy said...

Heh... "Boy stuff" I'm not entirely sure they allow all that stuff in heavan... :)

AMAZING GRACIE said...

Loving Annie is such a good cyber friend and is so gifted with words...Sarge Charlie had a post about the headstone but I hadn't read this post.
Your pastor and his wife are such a gift to you at this time and space. The Lord plants people in our lives for a purpose. If we are willing to see and learn our lives will be enriched beyond measure.
Your mom mentioned, "Farther Along," and I was shocked because as I was reading your post, those words came to me and I started humming the chorus.
"Farther along, we'll know all about it. Farther along, we'll understand why. Cheer up, my brother, live in the sunshine...We'll understand it, all by and by."
~~~Blessings~~~